My wife and I got my pr, and we been together 8 yrs now I done quite my job of 19 yrs, and spent tons of money to all this and now she tells me not to come up, she cant face her family, and they will never accept me being same sex, but I have lost everything now, and she acts like she can sweep me under and shes not responsible for me, she wont even give me insurance and I'm a diabetic, i tell her I could come and stay in an apt till she works her emotional chit out and come clean, Im like we are married , i have lost everything for you and the week Im to come you get cold feet? she said she needs to work on her and her emotional issues, she even has my pr card, someone help so I know what my rights might be
I am so sorry...
If you have "landed" she can not withhold your PR. She signed the paperwork to be responsible for you for 3 years after landing. Unfortunately, the "responsible" portion isn't really enough to live on as basically she would have to pay the government back if you were in receipt of social assistance. You do qualify to healthcare as a resident of whichever province you reside in but in terms of medication you are on your own for that, although I do believe if you are on social assistance, the government picks up the tab for your prescriptions. I would be getting a new PR card if she won't send you your as well.
I sincerely hope you guys can work things out.
If all this came apart after you landed, you are indeed a Permanent Resident. But where do you want to live really? Personally I love Canada, and would plan to stay regardless . . . but that is indeed a very personal choice.
Working out the relationship issues . . . that too is indeed a very personal matter. And in some communities, some families, far, far from easy if the relationship is the least bit beyond the "traditional."
But she has no right to hold on to your PR card. That, in itself, can constitute abuse at this point. I believe the card actually belongs to the Canadian government. Only the person named on the card can legally possess it.
As a PR you can reside where you like in Canada and, depending on which province, qualify for health coverage within a specific period of time . . . some provinces may require you to be physically in the province for a specified period of time to be covered. But in any event, once in Canada, I think about three months is the longest you might have to go without health insurance. That, however, does not cover medications/drugs in many of the provinces.
In the meantime, if you were legally married, you are indeed legally married. Just like anyone legally married . . . and if you were to decide to go your separate ways, a divorce proceeding would be necessary to make that official.
So sorry to hear that.. you must be devastated.
Regarding health care, Alberta has no waiting period but you do have to prove residency (utility bill or similar).
http://www.health.alberta.ca/AHCIP/Q-reg...ments.html
If you move to Alberta from outside of Canada your coverage begins on your date of arrival in Alberta, once all registration validation requirements are met.
You are not covered for medical services under the Alberta Health Care Insurance Plan until all the required information is received and your application is processed.
However, any medical services you receive and pay for before your application is processed may be reimbursed once you have your personal health card and can show eligibility for the period when you received the services.
There is also a health benefit that you may be qualified for which would help with the cost of medication.
http://www.employment.alberta.ca/FCH/2085.html
As other's have said, you are a Permanant Resident of Canada and your spouse cannot with-hold your PR card, nor deny you basic necessities. She has signed a sponsorship agreement to take care of you for 3 years and as such must repay any government benefit that you claim.
You can apply for assistance whilst looking for work
http://www.employment.alberta.ca/FCH/689.html
I hope things work out for you... :)
I agree with dpenabill - whether you choose to come to Canada now or not is your personal decision, but it's also, now, your right. You passed the test - you are a landed permanent resident of Canada and your spouse cannot take that status away from you. In addition, considering that she now thinks she doesn't want to go through with things, you are not obligated to come to Canada and make your home with her - you can come to Canada and settle anywhere you want to . . . although Alberta seems to have the best options for immediate healthcare.
One other thing you should be aware of: in order to maintain your permanent residence you have to be resident in Canada for two years of each five year period - which means that your PR status is "safe" for nearly three years without you moving to Canada. So you have some time to figure out what to do - and even if you come to Canada now and things aren't working out as far as looking for a job, etc., you are able to go back to the States for a time, if you want to, and still have the option to relocate to Canada later on. Because you landed before all he)) broke loose, you have options. So don't feel pressured to make decisions right now while you're in a tangle of emotions. Take a breath, figure out what's best for you and your daughter, and then make decisions. Good luck and remember, we're here any time you have questions.
I love my wife very much, she just cant face the pressure her family has put on her, but yes we are legally married, i dont even know my rights as us beign legally married and what to do in a divorce, and my rights or anything, I truly do not want a divorce , i truly love her and my world has fallen apart, calgary is where I wanted to be because I was going to be with her, and Im so lost right now.
and I like to add we have been married since 2007
right now I dont even have a place to stay if I go to canada, I have no home, Im out in street
Your issues are mostly rooted in domestic relations law, not immigration; even if you were to go on public assistance in Canada, which you might be able to if indeed you cannot find employment, thus evoking the sponsorship obligation of your partner, that is only tangentially an immigration issue.
As far as domestic relations law, that varies some from province to province, and how it applies in your instance will of course vary mostly based on the nature of the relationship you two have had since 2007 and the extent to which one or the other has depended on the other for support.
Overall, it sounds like you first need to be somewhere where you will find the most support . . . be it from family or friends . . . or, if that is not an option, to one of the many shelter/support organizations in various communities (in both Canada and the U.S.), recognizing of course that immediate needs must be met first, and then you can consider and pursue other options (which, yes, are few for people without means).
Personally, I'd think you would prefer to be somewhere you are familiar with and while Canada is not all that "foreign" it is a foreign country relative to the U.S. You have up to nearly three years from now to make a move into Canada in order to preserve your PR residency (and even then, for Americans it is very easy to simply enter Canada even as a visitor . . . and as long as you then stay in Canada for two full years you meet the residency requirement, no matter how long you were previously not in Canada, so long as your PR was never officially revoked).
You probably need to get your life in order, find some solid ground on which to stand, figure out where you want to go next in your life (which might include holding on to whatever chances there are for reconciliation with your partner), and, well, simply take care of yourself for awhile, and then figure out the U.S. versus Canada thing.