as most know or I think knows, after I have quite my job of 19 yrs, and was leaving to be with my wife, she decided this relationship is to hard and she cant do it.
so I been trying to find a job here in houston but have not found nothing yet, and have even been trying in calgary, a few jobs in calgary tell me to come in , but Im afraid as Im not sure what to do, i was goign to calgary to be with my wife, now Im trying to find a way to make money cause cant draw unemployemnt since Im the one who quite. My wife says sorry she cant and wont help me, that she loves me and is grieving and hurting like me, but she has to do this for her and for her family cause they will never accept me.
if I go i cant take my truck, I dont know anything about calgary except what lil she has shown me, I feel lost, what kind of help I can get? but I need a job no matter where I live cause I have responsiblities to my daughter as well, she has left me in a bad place. any advice, who can I call when I land, to get some assitant till I can get a job? My wife tells me to go on welfare here but it wont pay for my truck, it wont pay for my daughter medication. this is a living nitemare, how could i trust her and quite a job of 19 yrs.sighs anyone from calgary can give me some advice? I have even asked her will she help me rent a room for a month or 2 just to give me time to find a job cause no one is hiring here, she says no she cant
Hi Susan, sorry to hear things are no better for you. Your wife is legally financially responsible for you as your sponsor and if you come to Canada and have to go on welfare she will have to repay the government any monies that are given to you for the next 3 years. Perhaps if you remind her of that she may be more willing to assist you. She signed a legal document/contract with the government of Canada when she sponsored you - she has no choice but to honour it.
In the meantime, are you able to bring your daughter with you? (sorry, I can't find your previous threads as it won't let me search) I do remember that you have your PR, but am not sure if that is for your daughter as well.
There are lots of resettlement agencies and womens agencies in Canada, all of which can help you to settle, find accommodation etc.
You don't have to go to Calgary - Canada is a huge country, so maybe going to an area that you know there is plenty of work in would be a good idea (I have no idea on the work situation in Calgary, sorry). Once you decide where you want to go then you can contact the settlement organisation for that area - there are some womens shelters who will give you accommodation temporarily as well if your circumstances are bad.
Is there a reason you can't bring your truck?
If you sell your truck, would there be enough money left (after paying any balance) to use as a down payment on an apartment? (most places require first and last months' rent) What about a house share? There are all different types of housing available, it really depends on what you need.
Alberta has quite a few services for women in crisis - if you go to this website there are links.
http://www.programs.alberta.ca/Living/82...?N=770+365
You could be entitled to claim Income Support (Alberta)
If you were sponsored, your sponsor agreed to support you for a period of time after you arrived in Canada. It is your sponsor's responsibility to pay for what you need.
You may be eligible for income support:
- If your sponsor has lost a job.
- If your sponsor did not fulfill their responsibilities.
- If you need to leave an abusive situation or have been abandoned.
For more information, visit the Alberta Employment and Immigration's Alberta Works website or call the Alberta Works contact centre by phone at 780-644-5135 in Edmonton or 1-866-644-5135 toll-free in other Alberta locations. Or call 310-0000 to be connected to the Alberta Employment and Immigration office nearest you. From a cell phone, call #310 (on Telus or Bell) or *310 (on Rogers).
http://employment.alberta.ca/FCH/689.html Income support.
A list of the shelters in Calgary:
http://www.child.alberta.ca/home/documen...isting.pdf
another list of shelters, Calgary
http://www.calgary.ca/portal/server.pt/g...helter.htm
If you could prove that she has been abusive you could get a lot more - relocation, financial assistance, housing etc.
http://employment.alberta.ca/documents/A...CN1126.pdf
You may also be entitled to spousal support, Alberta can help collect it:
http://www.programs.alberta.ca/Living/Dy...54&id=1872
Alberta seem to have a lot of programs to help people in need!
Resettlement:
http://www.ciwa-online.com/ womens settlement org, Calgary
A list of different settlement agencies in Alberta:
http://www.aaisa.ca/
As for jobs - take a look at
www.workopolis.ca or
http://www.jobbank.gc.ca/prov_eng.aspx?O...Student=No
I really think you should get some advice from a lawyer as to your rights - nobody deserves what has happened to you and you do have rights.
I hope things get better really soon,
<hugs>
hugs ty, My daughter is going to stay here with my mother as she going to school, and I have already paid for her classes, there are no jobs hiring right now here or I would stay, but I will leave my truck with my mother and daughter till something gives, I dont know my rights, but a store has offered me a job in calgary if I want to come up, i may do that so I can keep paying on my truck and rent a room somewheres for now till something else gives either there or I can come back to states with a job.
My wife know she responsible for me, she says she sorry but she cant do it, I do have My pr as does My daughter.
unless I hire someone my wife is NOT going to help me. I will try to do it on my own till something gives, and hope the lord looks out for me, know what I mean?
ooh and I cant take my truck across the boarder cause its still financed so have to wait, if I get a permenent job maybe I can get them to loan money to pay it off and then bring my truck over with me so we will see only owe 9k on it not much
Hi again, you don't have to do it alone!
If you go to Calgary, get the forms for Income Support from the website filled in and submit them - it's not a lot of money but it will help until your wages start. You will qualify because you have been abandoned by your wife.
Get in touch with one of the womens organisations or contact a womens crisis shelter and they will either give you temporary accommodation or help you find some. This will at least tide you over while you find somewhere permanant.
Your wife has no choice in the matter - she HAS to pay whether she wants to or not. They will take the money that you receive from Income support from her tax rebate or her wages! (let her explain that one to her family, lol)
When you get to Calgary and have somewhere to live, go to Services Canada and get a Social Insurance number as you will need it to work (it takes 10 minutes), then apply for your medical card. If you are on Income support your medical needs are met with no charge to you (would be the same for your daughter too).
Once you have a job and somewhere to live, go see a lawyer - the womens organisations will have people who can help too.
Hopefully you will find somewhere decent to live and be able to bring your daughter up to live with you...
Take care and keep in touch. <hugs>
Siouxie
siouxie,
ty for all this useful imformation, I have my social number already and have my card, where do I go to get medical card? My daughter will stay in states with my mother and go to school, I just will send her money every month to help with her needs. whether last she comes or not that will be up to her, will rent a room till I can get a bachelor apt, as it's all I will need later, as fo my wife helping me, if I can do it without her help I will try, Im not a vengful person, whats done is done, I cant change it, I just need to pick myself back up,and hope god will take care of me as he always has. and maybe I make new friends and can one day move on.
ooh and what website do I go to for income support?
Hi Susan
To get your health card go to this website where it has full instructions.
http://www.health.alberta.ca/AHCIP/commo...tions.html If you move to Alberta from outside of Canada your coverage begins on your date of arrival in Alberta, once all registration validation requirements are met.
To apply for Income support go to this website:
http://employment.alberta.ca/FCH/689.html
application form is here:
http://employment.alberta.ca/documents/F...MP3428.pdf
You will need to fill it out and make an appointment as soon as you get to Calgary.
I realise you are not revengeful person but your wife has a
legal responsibility to you to support you for 3 years - whether she wants to or not.
She isn't thinking of your best interest or how she can help you - so don't feel bad about asking for what is rightfully yours.
Take care <hugs>
I agree with Siouxie... you wife can't just say yes she knows she's legally responsible for you but she won't help you anyway. It doesn't work like that. She will owe the government any money you have to collect in unemployment or social assistance. She can't just say no.
I know you're trying not to be vengeful but she's completely screwed you over, you're not trying to hurt her, you're just trying to have a life! And if nothing else, she needs to be providing financial support so you can do that. If you have to force her to do that, I think you should go ahead and do that. You can't sacrifice yourself because she's now decided she's uncomfortable with a same sex relationship. Frankly she should have thought of that a LONG time ago, and she should have thought a lot more seriously about it before she signed a document saying she'd be financially responsible for you for the next 3 years.
perhaps you could ask for your old job back?
I try to get old job back but i was replaced before I even left, cause it was all planned out and I try to leave right and even trained the person who replace me. so there is no opening for me.
A friend of Mine was saying that I could not apply for income support cause my wife and I signed a paper stating we wouldnt cause she was financially going to support me, when signing immigration paperwork. this true?
No, that's not true. There are two relevant documents:
1. Application to Sponsor and Undertaking [IMM 1344A]
2. Sponsorship Agreement [IMM 1344B]
In a nutshell, the agreements are as follows:
1344A is an agreement between your sponsor and the government. She promises the government she will look after you for 3 years, no matter what.
1344B is an agreement between you and your sponsor, that makes sure you both understand your obligations under the sponsorship. Her part is basically the same as in the agreement with the government. I'd suggest you read over it, as it makes her obligations to you very very clear.
Your part of that agreement is simple - it says that you will do your best to support yourself, and you will ask her for help if you need help. It definitely does not say that you can't apply for income support, or other social assistance should you need it. If you need support, and can't get it from her, you can (and should) definitely use the other social assistance avenues that are available to you.
It is quite simple, walk into a 'Service Canada' office explain your situation, they will assign you a case manager and help you, a simlar thing happend to a friend of mine, they were 'abandoned' with 3 kids as well. 'Service Canada' took care of the whole thing. That is your starting point.
Also I do not know if your province has an business enterprise program, But they might assit in financing your truck, maybe. It is worth asking the question. They helped another friend of mine start his business by loaning them start-up capital.